When I was younger the holiday time was always something to look forward to, I mean how could you beat being out of school for 2 weeks!!! I loved sleeping in, watching my shows on tv, and hanging out with my friends. Let’s not forget about traveling to see family…hanging out with all the cousins while the adults sat in the kitchen cooking. Brings back great memories…
As an adult the holiday season has definitely changed for me. Don’t get me wrong I still love it, but it does not bring me the same joy it did as a kid. My responsibilities have changed and it less about my rest and more about my family. I wish someone would have told me that there are quite a bit of negatives that come with the holiday season.
I’ve included just a few things that have caused a damper in my holiday cheer...
1. With the Holidays Comes Anxiety
So I’m not sure about anyone else, but the holiday season brings on so much anxiety for me. Around September I get hit hard with the realization that I am about to shell out a bunch of money. The kids need costumes, I have to buy groceries to feed a larger group of people for Thanksgiving, and everyone is looking for Christmas gifts. Anyone else just look at their account like…..what?!?!?
2. My Children Don't Need the Best of Everything
Every year I say I am not going to buy my children a lot of gifts…and every year I go overboard. I had the best Christmas gifts during my childhood and I want the same for me kids. The problem is it will never be enough. They will always be disappointed because they didn’t get this or that….or they didn’t get enough. Let’s not even get into the stuff they don’t even bother with 2 weeks into the New Year.
3. It’s Not Always Fun Being Around Family
Sometimes it just feels like being around family can be too much. People start asking personal questions…or that aunt that always wants to air your business. Oh wait, wait…what about that uncle that always gets drunk and tries to fight everyone!!! No one tells you that it is okay to be alone, that you don’t have to go to that family gathering. It always just seemed like a requirement…right?!?!?
4. Bills Still Have to be Paid in January
When I first started doing the adulting during the holidays I would always stress about the money. I would stretch myself way to thin…then in January I’d scramble to figure out my regular life bills. I’ve gotten hip to the Christmas savings account so that helps, but when that money hits my account I just feel like there is so much more I can be doing with that money. With a lot of trial and error I never go into the new year struggling with how my family is going to survive.
Now these are just a few things I wish someone would have told me about the holiday season. My advice to you, make it what you want!!! Do what’s best for you, your family, and your living situation. We tend to forget what each holiday really is about…sharing, giving, and being grateful.
I am still a work in progress. My systems are not perfect, but I have a little less anxiety every year. I would love to hear anything you would add to the list….or traditions you’ve incorporated into your holiday season.